What did I volunteer for?

I’m not one of those women that tells everyone that I blog. I link to my posts on my personal Facebook page and about a year ago I stopped hiding those posts from anyone. But I don’t tell people when I meet them that I am a “blogger.”

I’m also not one of those women that volunteers for everything at my daughter’s school. I can feel myself being pulled in that direction but I am using “the baby” as a perfectly good reason to not overextend myself.

This question from Amanda at Southern Fried in Las Vegas was right on time!

Hello there!I’ve volunteered to make some items for the cake walk for my daughter’s fall festival at her school. Being the Pinterest-y crafter that I am these days, I was thinking of making some cute little labels for the goods – telling what it is, listing allergens like nuts in it. Good idea and so cute, right? But…being a blogger and a social media whore, I want to also put link to my blog on it and advertise myself a little.

Is that in bad taste? I’m unsure.

I’m also unsure WHY I volunteered in the first place, but whatever.

Sincerely,
Amanda

Tacky? No. But still maybe not a wise idea? Maybe. If you had a little side business baking cupcakes I’d say slap that website on that label. If you had a side business putting up wallpaper I’d say with a clever tagline you could point out that there is no wallpaper paste in these cupcakes and still slap that website address on there.

But a personal blog? Unless everything on your website is something that you’d mention in a “nice to meet you” conversation with someone you met at your daughter’s school I would skip it. I recently volunteered to try and badger (I mean, encourage) other parents in my daughter’s class to volunteer for the Fall Festival. Every time I sign my name I think “Should I put my web address under my signature?”

This is the scenario I imagine. “Hi, parent of a teacher in Emily’s class. My daughter would love to have your kid over to play. But first let me tell you I swear like a sailor, I have an awful sense of humor, I like sex on Saturday mornings and I was wondering if you want to see my stretch marks?” While it is true I would love to befriend the room mother that would reply “My kids are going as Ren & Stimpy for Halloween, I like to drink red wine from coffee cups and we would LOVE a playdate” I can’t really count on it.

So for now, I wait to spill the blog address until later. I haven’t figured out exactly how I will reconcile writing about the details of my life (and that of my kid’s by extension) when they get older. But for now I will grant them the courtesy of not having an uptight parent with an awesome kid decide that we are just too nutty for a playdate before they even have the chance to be offended in person.

Now speaking of Pinterest, can you help me? On a whim I got Mommy cards printed with my website address on them. But I have thus far been too chicken to actually give one to anyone. I think I might be more inclined to if I wasn’t keeping them in a Kleenex package. True story.

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16 responses to “What did I volunteer for?

  1. Business cards! Why didn’t I think of that?!
    You are so right about putting my blog out there to other parents before they actually get to know me. My family/friends read, but they get my sarcasm and sense of humor. At least I hope they do – because my cousin’s baby wears those insane Etsy baby headbands.

  2. Kelly,
    You better get the word out about your blogging identity, as I am spreading you like herpes on all social media platforms.

    Your daughter can play with my kids any time of the week. Has she seen Kill Bill yet? Play date?
    Le Clown

  3. Cynthia Matos-Medina

    I started inviting the parents from my son’s fifth grade class. It was so scary but it has been a success. Now I’m hitting my fourth grader’s class ;) They got to know that Im crazy that way they don’t bother me :)

  4. Reblogged this on Southern Fried Chicken in Vegas and commented:
    Today could not have been a better day for this post. The Fall Festival is tomorrow and I hope to be in full on baking mode shortly. If the baby cooperates.
    I really was comtemplating putting my website on the labels that I’m putting on my baked goods. When I saw that Excitement on the Side had started a new blog, I thought it was the perfect opportunity to ask her about it. She brought up some great points. Maybe I don’t want the moms of Mini-Me’s friends – current and potential – to judge me by what I say in my blog. Plus, that limits the amount of shit talking I could possibly do, right?
    Thanks so much to One of Those Women for featuring my question and my blog! If you have not had the pleasure of reading her work, I suggest you hurry on over there and meet my mom crush. She’s the epitomy of awesome.

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  6. Reblogged this on Southern Fried Chicken in Vegas and commented:
    Today could not have been a better day for this post. The Fall Festival is tomorrow and I hope to be in full on baking mode shortly. If the baby cooperates.
    I really was comtemplating putting my website on the labels that I’m putting on my baked goods. When I saw that Excitement on the Side had started a new blog, I thought it was the perfect opportunity to ask her about it. She brought up some great points. Maybe I don’t want the moms of Mini-Me’s friends – current and potential – to judge me by what I say in my blog. Plus, that limits the amount of shit talking I could possibly do, right?
    Thanks so much to One of Those Women for featuring my question and my blog! If you have not had the pleasure of reading her work, I suggest you hurry on over there and meet my mom crush. She’s the epitomy of awesome.

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  8. I have had the same issue about how much to spread the blog brand in the real world. On FB I’m friends with clients (well, just a couple of them) and I worried that they’d be offended by talks of boobs and cooters. It turns out that they won’t read it if they’re not into how awesome girl parts are and then I come to find out the moms of some of my guy friends follow it. Go figure. I do hesitate to throw it out in professional situations though. Is writing about parenting wrong to share with other parents? Maybe you share it on the playdate when you know you’re on the same page. Man, that was rambley.

    • I’ll take rambley. I just never want to paint myself in to a box where I feel like I need to watch my mouth. As a parent so much of your life belongs to your kids and that little corner is mine,

  9. “My daughter would love to have your kid over to play. But first let me tell you I swear like a sailor, I have an awful sense of humor, I like sex on Saturday mornings and I was wondering if you want to see my stretch marks?” I think we went to the same “How to be a Mom” course…

    • Ha. I started to read your comment and I am so bleary eyed tired this morning that I thought “WOW! She sounds just like me!” It made your observation regarding the same school that much funnier.

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